Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Barefoot in the city. And bits and pieces on Waldorf.

Barefoot in the city is a book by Jacqueline Koay, a woman whom I had the privilege to get to know through one of the parenting FB group. It's her sharing on raising her 5 kids organically. Reading the book feels like having a long chat with your girl friend. It's a light book with lots of stories. But very insightful nevertheless.

Some people might brush her off by being too idealistic. Some might think her method doesn't fit in with our Asian cultures. Some might get inspired. Some might not. As for me, I am just glad. Relieved is probably a better word. To get to know somebody who has raised their kids organically "successfully" gives me strength to keep going. Parenting can be a lonely journey. Especially when you chose the road less traveled.

The book is very Waldorf. As the author is a Waldorf parent. I get to know about Waldorf only recently. I get particularly interested due to it's holistic approach. It's not just a learning method like Montessori. It's a way of life. There's a religious element to Waldorf which might turn off some people. But it doesn't bother me. I am just pinching good stuffs and implementing what suits me.

Recently, I attended a Waldorf talk by Whitney MacDonald, a Waldorf master. Learned some great stuffs that I wished I knew before I started the parenting journey. There's a lot of emphasis on creativity and flexibility. And keeping things simple.

And exposing kids to nature. 
He quoted a study who predicted that in the future, our kids will have 10 different careers in their life time. If that is true, being flexible will be very very handy indeed. Flexibility means exposing kids to myriads of things.
Not expecting them to be a prodigy or world champion. But more of giving them platform to express themselves.
Stories are very fundamental in Waldorf education. Lots and lots of story telling. They started with dolls and props for the younger ones. 
Unlike the commercial dolls, Waldorf dolls are personally made. Not mass produced. And has very simple features with minimal facial expression. Some have none. Simple images with profound stories. Told repeatedly. Again and again. As the child gets older, about 6-7 yo, they move away from the physical representations of the dolls. Stories are told without dolls and props. This let the child develop their inner expression through imagination.

Play is a big thing in Waldorf. Whitney shared that studies have shown a child that is allowed to get lost in their play during childhood will get lost in their work in adulthood. 
Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Newton,  Galilleo, Leonardo da Vinci were all people who have the capacity to get lost in their work. Work is play and play is work. Do our kids have time to play? Do they know how to play?? Have they lost the desire to play? Do they get bored really easily? 

Play is not computer games or ipad or smart phones. Jacq wrote quite a bit on play in her book. Unstructured play that engages the kids instead of entertaining them. 
Entertainment eg ipad, TV, and most gadgets are passive process that relies on external sources to escape reality. Whereas engagement is an active process that fosters problem solving.
And you cannot get lost if you have a very hectic schedule. And being rushed from one place to another. And have a very packed schedule from morning till late evening. Waldorf believes in taking things slow. You don't rush a kid to read, or write or count. You have to give kids time and space to get lost in their own world. 
Whitney talked about kids nowadays being burnt out. It's amazing how Rudolf Steiner, the founder of Waldorf figured this out in 1920's. He thought burnt out child lack internal drive. And that's one of the roots of social issues. Don't you think so??

On the same issue, Jacq talked about parenting being a lot like gardening. You have a choice to choose between intensive modern technique that goes against nature (and loaded with unhealthy chemicals) vs organic farming. The former will produce fat and juicier products. Which are also loaded with chemicals and unhealthy. The latter will produce scrawnier smaller but healthier products. And will probably need more works and unpredictable too.

I can relate with this. Most of the times, people get the impression HS is a reckless risky decision. Most of the times, it looks like the HS parents are doing nothing. Especially those who opt the unschooling lifestyle. And people get agitated knowing the parents let the child lead. Let the child make decisions most of the time. How can a child know what's best for them? Right?? OK. That's where I beg to differ.

There's a HUGE difference between "being still" and "doing nothing". Jacq quoted this quote from Karate Kid in her book. And I think the quote is really profound. After 1 year of being around HS parents, I can tell you most HS parents I know put A LOT of thoughts on how they should raise their kids. And as HS is an all year round affair, they probably put more thoughts in random things we take for granted. Coz learning is an ongoing process. Things like daily routine, holiday, family activities, festivals, history, culture, etc etc etc.

Routine road trip to my home town in Kota Bharu used to be just a chore of getting from point A to point B. Since we started embarking on HS journey, I started scouring for information. Of all the possible learning opportunities along the way. So it's not a coincidence that we found a wau maker in Kota Bahru.
Or a pandanus weaving lady in Cherating.
Whitney also talked about freedom. Freedom is NOT about doing whatever we want. If that's the case, we are just being a slave to our desire. And we will not be able to do things that we need to do to be better. FREEDOM is ability to choose to live by the truth we believe in. And sometime, that mean we need to do things that we don't like doing.

To be honest, this is one of my biggest reservation with HS. Initially, I am not comfortable with the idea kids can do whatever they like. If you don't like, don't do. In my religion, there are things we don't really like doing. But we still do due to our faith. So that just doesn't sound right to me. Hence, I was ecstatic when I listened to Whitney's explaination on Waldorf. It makes so much sense now.

Jacq also spoke about this in her book. About freedom to choose and sticking to something for a period of time instead of giving up at the drop of a hat. The world will not function if everybody did only things they like doing. She wrote the story about her son, Jack and his lesson with fencing. And how long of trying is enough?? What should guide us to decide when it's enough??

Barefoot in the city is about BEING STILL. I have read the book twice. I need to read twice to connect everything together. The book is heavily influenced by yoga since she's a yogi. My rusty brain is just too slow to capture some of the yoga concept. And I took longer to finish the books coz I have to keep on searching for the missing book. My kids have never been interested with my parenting books. So I found it weird that I need to keep looking for this book. It's either with Hajar or Luqman. I guess they probably found the snippets of story in the book interesting.

They called Jacq "H.Y.M"....short for "Hot Yogi Mom"
Luqman; "It's interesting ummi. But she lost me at mahad"...hahaha.
Dude, mahad is in Chapter 2. U get lost so early?? :P

Have u ever go barefooted?? Try it. Find your mahad. The lost music inside you. You will be surprised.
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Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Sleep with the beast in Singapore Zoo

Sleep with the Beast is a 2 days 1 night family education program offered by Singapore Zoo. We were very lucky to get a spot last weekend. It was a last minute thing as I thought we had a family wedding during the weekend. Apparently we don't. And luckily, 2 families withdrew last minute and we were in...wooohoooo!!

We were late. As always. Drove straight from KL. Not as early as I we intended to. Too knackered from the wedding the night before. It was raining cats and dogs in Johor. And I was to camp in this kind of weather??? God listened to my prayer. Always. The moment we reached the zoo, the weather was perfect. And it remained perfect until we finished the program. Alhamdulillah.

First stop, Wild Africa guided tour. It's funny how I always get more excited with the new info than the kids. Like the fact that the male baboons will fight and compete to be the male alpha of the harem. And there's only one male alpha in each harem. And you can identify them by their bushy bright mane.
And the rest of the losers will start to lose their mane once they lost to the male alpha. It's like a hormonal thing. Isn't that just wicked cool?? I will go oooooohhh and aahhhhh and kids will start rolling their eyes looking at me in disbelief and mocking me: How could you not know that ummi?? Don't you watch National Geographics?? Well no kiddos. I was busy doing laundry and chores.

Kids got the chance to feed the baboon with bananas.
Our group facilitator was Ming Hwee. A 2nd year zoology student from NUS. It's very obvious he's very passionate about the animals.
Next stop was the reptiles lab.

 We took a boat ride to the camping site.
Participants were briefed on how to pitch a camp. 
This was our first camping experience as a family. The staffs were very kind to give our family 2 tents. need to squeeze everybody.
All camps were set and ready.
After pitching up the tents, we headed to Night Safari for dinner.
Dinner at Restaurant Ulu-Ulu. A very sumptious dinner for "campers".
Next, we boarded the tram. Look at the queue to the Night Safari. Horror!!
One of the great things about this program is you got to skip the queue. And you get reserved spot for all shows. Hoyeahhh!! ;-)
Creatures of the night show.
The brief panic looking for the missing snake among the audience. Very good acting by the crews.
Mystica; Dreamforest Fiesta is going on right now in Night Safari. But we didn't get to spend much time to watch the shows as we need to go back to the camp site at the zoo.

Little Missy volunteered herself to light up the camp fire. They were having trouble lighting the fire up. Once they started pouring more kerosene, I freaked out and asked Mr O to mind Little Missy who's very excited and got a tad too close to the fire.
It was a bright starry night. My camera didn't do justice. Perfect weather to camp.

We played some games. 
The kids singing the Singapore zoo song. We had lots of fun. Tired but fun.
Back to the auditorium for supper and washing up. The kids played chess while waiting for their turn to wash up.
The scenery that greeted us in the morning.
The weather was really great. The Seletar dam and slight drizzle throughout the night helps greatly to cool the air. The kids slept well. Except Hajar who woke up at 3am due to some animal noise. Well, they don't call sleep with the beast for nothing right??
Early morning stroll in the zoo. Pretty nice to walk around without the crowd.
Buffet breakfast with orang utan at Ah Meng Restaurant.
There were some animal shows during breakfast too.
After breakfast we continued the program with behind the scene session at Fragile Forest.
Creepy crawlies lab.

We also got the chance to view the pandas and take a peek at the almost completed River Safari.
Fees to view the panda is SGD 5 for adult and SGD 3 for kids. It's not part of the program but we got the privilege to book our slot in advance. You have 15 minutes to view the panda. And the tickets were snapped up really fast. Luqman cannot understand why people were so enthusiastic to see an animal who don't do much and sleep most of the time.
Well son, that's called brilliant marketing :-P Just after we finished the panda viewing, the rain started. Ain't we damn lucky???

You can obtain more information about the program from here. I think it's a twice a year program. One in June and one in December. The one in June will be from 8th-9th June. Registration will be closed at 40 pax. Places got filled up pretty fast. If you are interested, do reserve your spot early.

Saturday, December 1, 2012

A trip to UPM. At wee hour in the morning.

One of the most common perception people have regarding homeschooling is you have to be very discipline and capable to be able to do it. I beg to differ. Nobody is perfect. And I am definitely far from being discipline. I am one of the most disorganized last minute over ambitious scatter brain mom in the world.

But throughout our HS journey this year, there are many things that helped us through. And convince me it's possible to HS my kids. Despite my flaws and short comings. One of those things that has helped me greatly is the supportive, resourceful & proactive HS parents in the HS network. There's always something to do. Somebody is always organizing something. And those educational trips has bring us to many interesting places that we have never think of. Places we never know existed. And it makes us do stuffs that we don't usually do. Like waking up at wee hour in the morning, to catch the cow milking process in UPM.

The convoy going into the cow farm.
 The urban kids (and urban parents) & the calfs.
  Cows were fed before milking.
The milking process started at 8am. 
  The gadget.
The worker bottling the milk for sale.
After the cow farm, we moved on to the horse stable.
 The worker explaining how he bathe & clean the horse.
 They cut and clean the horse nail every day.
 Kids got the chance to feed the horse.
 Ooopppsss....whatcha doing?? hahaha ;-)
 Who need fake eye lashes??
The next stop was the animal anatomy museum. It's not a guided tour. Nevertheless, the staffs were very helpful in answering questions and there were many interesting stuffs to see.
 The mentor and the protege.
 The object of interest. Fetus of a still born goat.
 Once in a while, she was intrigued.

  Ever wonder how HS kids socialize? 
And the socialization transcends age. Over time, they learn to get along with everybody. Isn't that how real life socialization should be?
This was our last stop. 

 The lady in pink (sorry, I didn't get her name) was very nice to guide the group through some of the specimens in the museum.
It's interesting to observe the kids. Some were very obliging and paid attention.

Some were more comfortable to wander and discover on their own.

Some were just more interested in other things. Like devouring her new Magic School Bus book.
So really, if you assume everybody will be interested to be a doctor, you can be very wrong ;-)

It was a great trip. We finished around 11am. Kids were impressed with how much they have accomplished so early in the morning. Don't they say early bird catch the worm?? Yawwwwnnnn....zzzZZZzzz ;-P